The state of being alone is considered by many as a negative state that is best avoided. In fact, there’s a social stigma that considers spending time without the company of others as an imposed state of isolation rather than a choice. This stigma is easily observed in schools. When students spend more time by themselves instead of around friends they are mocked and labeled as loners. Today, social media also instills the need to have as many likes and followers as possible. This further reinforces the idea we must surround ourselves with others.
I completely disagree with the above social notions. I, for one, enjoy spending time alone. It lets me slow my pace and become more mindful of the world around me. It helps me focus my attention on myself. I can think about all the things I want to achieve, both in the near and distant future. If you knew the benefits of distancing yourself every now and then and a creating private space just for yourself, you too would embrace solitude.
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It Clears The Mind
On a normal day, we are bombarded with all different kinds of information from the people around us, the billboards we pass by, and the technology we use. Consciously and subconsciously, the information we’re exposed to shapes our thoughts and opinions.
When we take the time to be alone, we can clear our mind of others’ views and focus our attention solely on our own. Only then will we be able to understand our true selves, and our inner needs and desires.
It Fosters Creativity
We can all agree that we’ve experienced our minds pondering on various thoughts and possibilities when we’re alone in the shower, or in the still darkness right before we’re about to fall asleep. This is because being alone creates a blank canvas in our minds that is free from all distractions. It allows our thoughts to wander until they fuse together and flourish into ideas. This is why many great artistic masterpieces throughout history were composed in solitude.
If you think being alone is the same as being bored, you couldn’t be more wrong! For many, being alone is when they’re most alive.
Being Alone Builds Confidence and Pushes us to be More Independent
Have you ever taken yourself out to dinner, or been to a movie by yourself? Have you gone on a solo road trip? At first, doing these activities that we’re so used to doing with friends and family all by ourselves can be daunting. However, it’s important that we break free from our comfort zones and experience the freedom that comes with doing everyday things alone.
When we go to dinner, we’ll have complete control when deciding which restaurant to go to or what dishes to order. We’ll be at liberty to do what we want and be exactly who we are. The more time we spend doing things by ourselves, the more we’ll start putting ourselves first. We’ll stop relying on others and start relying on ourselves to get things done. The pride we’ll experience from our accomplishments will be well worth the effort we put into realizing our goals and vision.
Spending time alone doesn’t mean we’re selfish. Doing so merely means we’re dedicated, both to ourselves and to those we serve. We become the best version of ourselves when we dedicate the time as often as we can to do things that bring us peace and love. We become our biggest fan and the most motivating person in our life. It’s important to take care of the most important person – us – and allow ourselves to feel whole again.
About Andres Pira – philanthropist, real estate tycoon, author, speaker, and global citizen. Andres Pira enjoys living in Thailand where his journey began from ไม่มีที่อยู่อาศัยให้กับมหาเศรษฐี.
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